Stop Living Your Life For Everyone Else: 5 Things To Quit Right Now



Hallelujah, It's finally Friday! After a busy yet productive week, I am so ready for a day off. I turned in my last Communications paper yesterday and only have one and a half more weeks until I am officially done with my summer semster. Yipee!


As a military wife, my life seems to always be changing. My husband and I have a big decision coming up that needs to be made before this December. I am not sharing the full-details as of yet, but we have been talking with our friends and family to help us with our decision. Through this process, we have been learning a lot. (Life is all about lessons and learning) am I right?


After talking with friends, family, and praying about this decision; we have gained so much wisdom. Through all of this, I have learned some things that I wanted to share with you.




After sharing 5 Things To Quit Right Now, I am about to be extremely real with you. I am the type of person who has always tried to please everyone. I have found that the person who tries to please everyone else all the time only disappoints themself in the end.


It’s easy to get lost living your life for others (which is what I have done in the past.) I have always known this about myself, but have realized it so much more within the past few weeks.


As most of you know, I am going to school to finish my nursing degree. Since I was a kid, my dream has been to become a nurse. I love taking care of others and enjoy working in the medical field. I started my school journey back in 2016 when I moved to Washington. I was working night shifts and taking classes on my off days.


I had a huge setback in 2017, when I found out about a rare brain conditon I had that resulted in surgery. I had planned to attend school that Fall semester but my surgeon recommended that I take the semester off, because it would take me months to heal.


I am so glad I took her advice because looking back I couldn't focus let alone drive for that period of time. After healing from the surgery I questioned on whether or not I should go back to school. I gave myself so many excuses like, "I'm terrible at math," "What if I can't do this?" The list goes on. I caught myself fearing change, overthinking it, and putting myself down. I listened to some people say "Maybe this will be too much for you."


I finished out my time in Washington assuring that I was healed from my surgery and made the choice to go back to school this February. Remember how I told you about how terrible I was at Math? Well, I passed my class and did so much better than I thought I would!


I am thankful for my husband's endless support, for allowing me to pursue school full-time, and for picking up the slack. He is my biggest encourager, my biggest supporter, and has been willing to do just about anything to make my dream possible. I am SO thankful for him.


All that to say, there are going to be obstacles in your way to prevent you from getting to where you need/want to be. It's okay to listen to other people's opinions and advice, but at the end of the day you have to make the choice that is best for YOU. Stop trying to please everyone, it is nearly impossible. Along the road of pleasing everyone else you will only lose yourself in the process. Choose what is best for you and your situation and the people who love you will understand and support you through it.


Don't fear change, change has to happen for growth to occur.


Stop living in the past, you aren't who you were back then.


Don't put yourself down, you are capable and deserving of everything you set your mind to!


Quit overthinking, get out of your head and breathe. Overthinking about how things might go wrong, doesn't help them go right.


If you have read this far, thank YOU for bearing with me. For letting me live my truth, for sharing my most intimate thoughts. Stay tuned to hear more about our final decision.


I hope to encourage you through this process we call life.







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